Family of Origin Issues – Edmonton Therapy

Have you ever asked yourself “why do I keep getting into the same situations or the same types or relationships?”

We first learn how to interact with others as infants/toddlers and through these early interactions, we learn many of our values/beliefs, how to communicate, deal with our emotions, give and receive love and affection, and get our needs met. We all need caregivers who can consistently help us regulate our emotions through the use of physical touch and emotional connectedness. This helps a child’s brains and bodies to develop in a healthy way. Your learning can be disrupted if your parents were not in a good position to provide you with the love and care that you needed. This may occur for a variety of reasons, such as parental figures who had issues with:

  • mental health
  • trauma
  • personality disorders
  • substance abuse
  • violence/neglect
  • negative intergenerational patterns
  • exposure to war, poverty or other extenuating circumstances
  • being otherwise unprepared or unavailable for parenting

Unfortunately, if your parent was not able to provide you with the care that you needed during these crucial stages of development (i.e. your caregiver’s parenting style was unresponsive, unavailable, anxious, rigid, shaming, judgmental, abusive, chaotic, narcissistic, smothering or enmeshed), it can keep you stuck in repetitive cycles within your current relationships. More specifically, family or origin issues can affect your ability to:

  • feel affection
  • give affection
  • set healthy boundaries
  • create stable relationships
  • regulate your emotions
  • care for yourself or others
  • perform at work
  • feel good about yourself
  • develop a strong sense of self

As well, some individuals suffer from pervasive negative self-talk, feelings of worthlessness, vulnerability, and shame. This can lead to various problems, such as a fear of abandonment, an overwhelming need to please others, anxiety, depression, mood swings.

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